Through learning the critical need to be more present in my life, I have seen the impact and effect it has had on shaping my friendships and relationships and on the quality of my presence when I walk into a room.

‘We convince by our presence.’—Walt Whitman

Most days I am on time, if not early, for appointments and meetings. But on one particularly day, I was running late for a workshop where several attendees were from the Australian Defence Force. I decided to catch the tram as I thought it was the quickest option. While I was standing at the tram stop, caught up in my own small mindedness of panic and fear of being judged, and not paying attention at all to the fact that I was getting incredibly wet from the rain, a young family crossed the road and joined me.

The young boy, no older than eight years of age, came over to me, stood on his tippy toes and raised the umbrella over my head. I smiled, softened and then asked him his name.

Turesh and I had a lengthy chat about his country of birth and why he loves living in the city of Melbourne. (The mother and her two children were from Varanasi in India).

This soft intervention from an eight-year-old was exactly what I needed to snap me out of my human busyness and sense of importance and bring me back to the now. As I relaxed, I found some space between my over-thinking mind and the reality of what was happening in the here and now.

This incredible connection with a young boy brought me back to a place of centeredness. Before Turesh came along, I was fully future-focused and worried about what it would look like when I arrived late—I was completely caught up in a thought that was of no use to me at all.

Minutes later, I walked into the workshop (5 minutes late) calm, confident and completely present with my surrounding environment and the people in the room. I was asked to contribute to a conversation within seconds of me sitting down and I am certain I communicated in a considered and mindful way.


Learning to pay attention to when I am not being present has been a game changer in my life. The moment you realise you are not present, you are present. Sometimes, we are lucky enough to come across people, like Turesh, who remind us that we need to come back to the now. Other times, when there is no one to intervene, we need to access our own toolbox.

Come and learn the tools and practices I am deeply committed to that will help you be more here than there. Due to customer demand, I have opened up 5 more places for my Explore and Expand Retreat.

Find out more here. I’d love for you to join me.

Jaquie Scammell
‘Love Being in Service’

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